Proverbs 11:14 Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.
Proverbs 8:33 Hear instruction, and be wise, and refuse it not.
Proverbs 19:20 Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.
Proverbs 12:15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.
Counsel according to God's Book and NO other. Nouthetic counseling encompasses ALL of God's word, not just part of it, as some may think and do practise.
Nouthetic comes from the Greek word nouthesia, which implies scriptural direction.
In Nouthetic counseling God's word is used as a standard and guide-line, not any secular textbook or Christian textbook with the author's opinion. Neither the use of Psychotherapy, nor the personal point of view of the counselor.
Colossians 3:16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing
one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.
Romans 15:14 And I myself also am persuaded of you, my brethren, that ye also are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge, able also to admonish one another.
Colossians 1:28 Whom we preach, warning every man, and teaching every man in all wisdom; that we may present every man perfect in Christ Jesus.
Nouthetic counseling is Christ centered and a "directive" way of counseling, as opposed to most secular "non-directive" counseling methodology. It uses the authority of God. Therefore it is neither arbitrary nor oppressive. It does not function merely as a sounding board but is confrontational and discerning. This approach includes the following: discerning sin or wrong doings in the counselee; admonishing; confronting with the Word of God; motivating for change; providing direction from the Scripture; teaching the word of God; leading the counselee to confession, repentance, reconciliation and restoration; supporting and encouraging the counselee in his walk with God.
2 Timothy 3:16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.
When Biblical counseling is applied in God's authority it will be right to the point and direct. No hiding behind vague words.
Nouthetic counseling is active, not passive. It is open and honest, straight forward and almost to the point of being blunt.
It is geared to change, it is radical, and clearly presents a choice to the client: to follow in God's way or the way of sin.
2 Timothy 4:2 Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.
Nouthetic counseling is the most effective way of counseling that I know of, with fast results, because it is based on God's word.
God's word is the truth, and the truth shall set you free. (John 17:17, John 8:32). It is not about pleasing man, but rather God. And by doing so it will benefit the counselee.
Therefore, we have to come to an absolute understanding that God's word is and stays powerful, spoken and/or written. In Genesis we read: "God spoke and it WAS." And because we have the Bible, I would like to state: "God wrote and here it IS."
Nouthetic counseling is motivated by love and deep concern of them that administer it.
The practising counselor needs to have the love of God, faith and hope in order to have an effective influence on the counselee.
1 Timothy 1:5 Now the end of the commandment is charity out of a pure heart, and of a good conscience, and of faith unfeigned.
Colossians 3:14 And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.
1 Peter 4:8 And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.
The application of Nouthetic counseling through the Internet presents God's word without the pressure of the counselor's presence.
I do find e-mail counseling a very powerful tool in my Practice. There is not much exchange of personal emotions between counselee and counselor, but more emphasis on God's word, thus less side-tracking of the human issues. This way both can concentrate more on God's word. It also directs the counselee to focus more on the Lord for answers than on the counselor, which is exactly what Christian counseling is all about.
The intention of Nouthetic counseling is to shift the counselee into God's hands and for the counselor to let go. Not to make the counselee dependent on the counselor, but on God.
Psalm 125:1 They that trust in the Lord shall be as mount Zion, which cannot be removed.
Besides giving direction in becoming obedient to God's word, it is appropriate and necessary for the counselor to pray with the counselee, and to bring everything before the Lord, asking Him for guidance and revelation. The Gift of discernment will assist the counselor to pinpoint underlying issues such as; bondage, addiction or hidden sin. If the counselee is willing to go God's way but is hindered by overwhelming powers of darkness and/or oppressed by evil spirits of lust, occultism, depression or sickness, he/she needs first to be set free before one can respond to God's will and submit to His word.
In the above case the counselor must act upon God's word, in agreement with the counselee, by the laying on of hands and/or casting out of demons, as commanded by Jesus Christ in Mark 16:17-18 and Matthew 28:20. These acts of obedience, on the counselor's part, will be confirmed by God, the Father, with miracles and wonders, according to His word. The counselor must use any of the Gifts of the Holy Spirit available to him in order to bring the counselee to full restoration in Christ. Paul's instructions in 1 Corinthians, Chapters 12, 13 and 14 are still applicable for today and until Christ's return.
James 1:22 But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.
James 2:17 Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone.
One may conclude that there rests great responsibility on the shoulders of the counselor to obey God's word in helping others in need, by presenting the "whole" of the Gospel.
Acts 20:20 & 27 And how I kept back nothing that was profitable unto you, but have shown you, and have taught you publicly... For I have not shunned to declare unto you all the counsel of God.
The personal walk with God, the dedication to God's will, and the love and compassion for others will determine how successful the counselor will be in leading the counselee to freedom in Christ, for the glory of God and the extension of His Kingdom.
John 17:17 Sanctify them through Thy truth: Thy word is truth.